Monday, November 3, 2008

Love Dare - Day 15: Love Is Honorable

Did you find delight in your spouse yesterday? Are you fighting fair when the need arises - although I hope that you have not found a use for that one yet;) The real question is this, are you getting a use out of this dare? I know I sure am. I am finding, each day, a new way to love him. We have been crazy busy at our house since we started, but have still made the time to read the book, share our thoughts and do little things for eachother on a regular basis. It is such a Blessing!!!

I am praying that you are finding new depth and love and respect for your spouse too. Every marriage could use it, simply because of our stinkin' humanness that tends to take a hold of us at the worst moments...

On to today...

"Live with your wives in an understanding way ... and show honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life." - 1 Peter 3:7

Did you know that the word Honor actually comes from a form of the word Holy? And that when we take a vow to "Love, HONOR and (gulp) Obey" our spouse, we are taking a vow to treat them as holy. Now, let me clarify, I am not talking about Holy in the sense that God is Holy. In marriage, and other relationships of honor, holy means to be "set apart, no longer ordinary, special and unique". Meaning that we are to put our spouse in a special place in our lives, set them apart for a unique purpose. Share with them something that we share with no other person. We are not putting them on a pedastal and calling them perfect and bowing down to them. We are putting them in a special place beside us and, at times, in front of us, calling them honored and, prayerfully, bowing down WITH them to the One who is to be bowed down to. I hope that makes sense.

The way that we treat our spouse should show him or her whether or not we respect and honor them. In fact, it does whether we want it to or not. Do you listen to your wife behind the paper or with one hand on the remote and one eye on the TV? Do you talk to your him in the same tone as you do your children, or about him in the same way as an annoying coworker? We should be honoring them even when away - and that can be hard.

I remember going to a "girl party" with my mom when I was younger. It was probably a shower or something, I don't remember. What I do remember is hearing all kinds of stories about these women and their stupid, silly, incompetent and down right useless husbands. Some of them were pretty funny, some were pretty sad and all of them made marriage look bad. I also remember my mom's silence. I NOTICED that she did not say a thing about my dad. And I remember, on the ride home, her telling me that when you allow yourself to talk bad about your husband, you make him look like a fool - to them and, eventually, to you as well. And I am telling you, those words stuck! I see now that me speaking ill of my man would be as bad as dishonoring him to his face. Now, I have a sarcastic sense of humor so this is at times hard for me. But, I do make a concerted effort to honor him in all things. And I pray that he feels the respect that I have for him. But just in case, I make special effort to show him once in a while.

And that leads us to our challenge for the day ...

Today's Dare

Chhose a way to show honor and respect for your spouse that is above above your normal routine. It may be holding a door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

Remember, the one that you love will know how you feel about them in the way that you treat them. So, treat them well ... and with honor. I am praying for you!!!

See ya tommorrow!

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