Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Be Careful ....

I have a friend who is hurting.  Hurting in one of those senseless, needless CAREless kind of situations.  The kind that could have ... and SHOULD have ... been avoided at all costs.

Someone made a choice - a choice to look. Then to look again.

That person made another choice - a choice to THINK. And to imagine. To go THERE in the mind.

Then he made the choice to act.  And act again.

And these choices led to pain. To loss.  To destruction. To brokenness ... not to brokenness of this person, but brokenness of dreams, lives, families (yes ... familIES! plural), careers and so much more.

Brokenness of hearts and trust and love and home.

And the thing is, it didn't just happen. It never just happens.  It is a series of events, choices and changes.

You make a promise and draw a line.  The intention is to never even veer toward that line.  But it happened.  They did.  They were never (WE were never) meant to even look at or consider that line.  But they did.  And they certainly never set out to CROSS that line ... but it happened.  They did.

One choice, one thought, one look, one tiny movement toward that line at a time. And before they knew it, they were on the other side.

I know we ALL would like to think that our marriages are solid and strong. And that the love will last.  But it will not happen with out intention.  Without choices. Without care.

Be CAREful ... it's a slippery slope. It happens gradually. Over time. And then, in a moment, there you are.

It's a slow fade...

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day
It's a Slow Fade.

Be CARE-ful.

3 of ya left some love:

Groovewoman said...

I am crying right now! This is all too real, because this is how my parents ended up in divorce, all while at the time I was planning My wedding. Nice, right? This is a deep wound and I wish the choices & decisions that were made on my parents part, would have been different, that I could have changed them somehow... because I might just have a family right now.

I have never really listened to the words of this song before and I had no idea that it was talking about having an affair. This is also the first time I've seen the video... the last scene gets me, because I wish I could have been around to do something like this. I know I can't change the past, but there are times, I wish I could have.

I am so sorry about your friend, my heart goes out to her & her family. Becky, she'll need you now more than ever & so will her kids... trust me, I know!

Teri~Facedown said...

Good word my friend. Protecting our marriages needs to be top priority.

Susan said...

Well, hello sweet friend. Yes...our marriages are fragile. Because we are fragile. But with Him...we are Strong and so will our marriages be! Praying, right now, for all of our marriages!

Love you bunches.