Thursdays are crazy 'round here, so I am just gonna dive in to today's dare ... is that OK?
"Delight yourself in The Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart." -Psalm 37:4
Is there something that your spouse would absolutely love to get? I mean really, REALLY love to get - or do? How often do you think about that? When was the last time you asked yourself that question?
Now, I realize that - especially in these times - we cannot realistically give our spouse everything that they might want. It is just not plausible. But what is holding you back? Is it your budget and the numbers in your account balance, or is it your lack of desire?
For instance, I know that I cannot give my man a re-do of our amazing honeymoon in Alaska. Oh, but I really wish that I could. However, what I CAN do is take the kids to a sitters house, pull out our funny glasses or mugs that we got on board the cruise ship, dim the lights, put on some music and make myself presentable to greet him at the door when he comes home. I can get a little creative and do something fun for him.
Sometimes love needs to throw caution to the wind and just be extravagant. It needs to go all out, set aside the rules and just bless the other person. But, if the checkbook says you can't it doesn't mean all hope is lost. There has got to be SOMETHING you can do to make a wish come true for your love.
Men, you can't hire a maid? But can you "be one" - just for the day? Girls, you can't offer him a shopping spree at his fave store, but can you get him something small from there at least? Or a gift card now and then that can add up to something BIG!?!?! Find something doable and DO IT!
Put your heart into it. Offer up a level of love that WANTS to fulfill the dreams of your spouse.
I mean, think about it, hasn't God fulfilled dreams for you that may have seemed impossible at one time or another? Weren't you living under a cloud of guilt that He just washed away? Didn't He let you close when you felt that you only deserved to be sent away? And, if there is anything that we have learned from this series of dares, isn't it that His love is what we are to pattern our own marriages after? And if He can do the extravagant for you, can't you reach for the stars for the one that you love?
And, if right now, you look at your mate and don't see someone worthy of showering with favor, look further. Look all the way back to your wedding day if you have to. Because, let's admit, it is not our behavior that makes God want to pour put His love on us. It is His love for us.
I pray that you have found, re-found, uncovered, or finally discovered a love like that for your mate. A love that wants to see their desires fulfilled - even if we cannot shower them with gifts right now. We can, at the very least, shower them with a love that shows them that, if we could, we would give them the world!
I am sure that not everything that your love wants comes with a hefty price tag. I mean, I can make my man a batch of blueberry muffins right now and he would smile. He could snuggle on the couch with me and let me choose the movie and I would be happy. There is a way to make your Honey feel loved and not have to spend a fortune. You just gotta be a little creative!
You can do it!
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
Dreams and desires come in many different shapes and sizes. And love learns to see them all! Love causes you to listen to their desires. Love reminds you of the things that are special about your love, and give you pleasure to see them happy! Love shows you how to give just a little bit more than you thought possible. And love leads you to think about what they want so often and so much that their dreams become yours as well!
What is something that your spouse would really, REALLY love?
And how can you start living out the answer to that question?
I'm praying for you! See ya tomorrow!