Monday, October 20, 2008

Love Dare - Love Is Kind

If you are just joining us, welcome. This is day 2, so you will want to scroll down to day 1 to start. We are glad you are here!!!

For those of you continuing, welcome back!!! So, how was yesterday? Share your experiences in the comment section, PLEASE ... we all need a little input, help and accountability. We gotta stick together through this. The book even warns that this is not to be taken lightly, it is a commitment and must be treated as a promise. So, let's keep each other lifted up and bathed in prayer. Pray for each other's marriages and strength to see this through. Let's also support each other and motivate each other through. What do ya say?!?!

As for us, yesterday was easy ... mostly 'cause I had a migraine when hubby came home and spent most of the evening in bed. Bummer, huh?

It did, however, give him an opportunity to get a head start on day 2 ...

He, very kindly, offered to let me have a quiet evening in bed while he took care of the girl's dinner, playtime and bedtime routines alone. And that is what day 2 is all about!

Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. - Ephesians 4:32

To quote the book - "If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing." These two traits are what the rest of what love is built upon. Without them we are building on sand and nothing will stand.

Kindness can be broken into four facets - GENTLENESS: sensitivity to the other person's feelings (even when what you have to say may be hard, say it gently); HELPFULNESS: meeting the needs of the moment, even if your own are put on hold; WILLINGNESS: looking for reasons, opportunities and ways to cooperate and compromise; INITIATIVE: seeing the need and acting without being asked or told to.

When you first fell in love, was kindness not one of the things you noticed and responded to? It probably was for your spouse too - what better way to rekindle those feelings?

Today's Dare
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

(Notice that it said "in addition to ..." This means that we are to add on to what we did yesterday, not replace it. Continue to hold your tongue when tempted to snap, keep from rolling your eyes when frustrated and keep those dirty looks at bay - no matter how difficult that may be - and at the same time, be kind.!!!)

Remember, we can do this ... and it will be so worth it in the end!!! I'll be praying for ya:)

See ya tomorrow!

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