Monday, November 10, 2008

Love Dare - Day 18: Love Seeks To Understand

So, how are you doing so far? We are almost half way there - I hope you are still with me on this! As for us, I think Hubbs dropped out at about day 5. But, it was not his fault, completely. See, I would read the book out loud as we were getting ready for bed and then we would talk and share and then I would get up really early (or stay up really late) writing the post. And that particular schedule was not working for us. SO, I just got into my own little routine (which has been thrown completely out of whack by this trip) and started doing it on my own. I share a little bit every now and then about what we are doing, and I think that works for him. Really, he is under a LOT of pressure these days anyway and I just don't want to put one more thing on him. Besides, he loves me so well already :)

So, how do I know when it is not a good idea to pressure my man anymore than he already is? It is because I KNOW him. Which leads us to today ...

"How Blessed is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains understanding." - Proverbs 3:13

Remember when you were first falling in love with your spouse? Back then you wanted to know every little thing about them - their favorite color, foods, hobbies, etc... So, what did you do? You studied them closely. You talked to them and, this is a biggie, you LISTENED to them. Truth be told, you probably hung on every word. But, what about now?

Is it because you know your love so well that you do not need to study them anymore? Or is it because you have already won the prize? Because, I promise, there is still much to learn.

My niece Trinity is 8 years old and is a black belt in Karate. Girlfriend can do over a hundred push ups (they stopped her at 100 so that the other kids could try!), break boards with her bare hands and she is a whiz with those num-chucks (sp?) and pole thingies. Right now she is a first degree black belt, pretty soon she will test and become second degree. And after that she can go no further in degree until she is eighteen. But she will keep studying because there is still so much to learn.

And, think about this - a doctor doesn't just get his degree and stop studying (at least a GOOD doctor doesn't), because there are new things to uncover all the time. New procedures, new research and new medications. ALL THE TIME. Things are always changing!

So, look at it this way: While dating you earned your high school diploma in the art of "Spousal Studiology". Now, you CAN stop there, OR, you can keep going and get a college degree, master's degree and even a doctorate! The choice is yours. What do you have to lose? And, you know, there is soooooo much to gain!

Try it, you'll like it!

Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you've rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

So, don't look at this as a chore. Have fun with it. This could be just the thing to get the two of you laughing and having fun again!

Have a great day. I am praying for you!

See ya tomorrow!

1 of ya left some love:

calista said...

Ok, can I use the kids plastic play food for this, and we can just use a little imagination????